Examples of eustress:
- Getting to know someone
- Working through the loss of a relationship or employment
- Studying for school/credential/license
- Advocating for someone you care about
- Learning or adapting to new routines
- Buying a home
- Networking with peers/professionals
- Having a child
- Competitive sports
- Preparing for life achievements
- Musical performance
- Developing new skills
- Artwork – for self or others
Examples of distress:
- The death of a spouse
- Filing for divorce
- Separation from a spouse or committed relationship partner
- Conflict in interpersonal relationships
- Losing contact with loved ones
- Bankruptcy/Money Problems
- The death of a family member
- Hospitalization (oneself or a family member)
- Injury or illness (oneself or a family member)
- Sleep issues
- Children’s problems at school
- Being abused or neglected
- Legal problems
If Stress can be good or bad, which one is it?
For example, playing on a team may be considered fun or challenging (use of eustress), while others see it as distressing. Some of us will be excited for a promotion at work or new challenge at school, while others may see this new role as something that we are not adequately equipped for.
What do you do about stress/anxiety issues?
What is the difference instead of "getting over it"? When we recall something from our past that holds power over us today, it will still feel overwhelming. Instead, if we work through the issue we find that we now have a new technique (tool, coping skill, etc.)and the confidence that we will survive the feelings, and maintain control to combat the issue when it arises again. It is not easy to work through these issues, but you will not be alone when facing them.
I use many different tools or therapeutic techniques when helping you heal from your unique issues and together we will find what works for you.