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Honoring Women’s History Month – Stories, Strength, and Progress

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March is Women’s History Month, a time to recognize, honor, and celebrate the contributions of women throughout history and in our everyday lives. It’s a time to reflect on the resilience, achievements, and ongoing struggles of women across all fields—science, activism, art, leadership, caregiving, and beyond.

Why This Month Matters

Women’s voices have shaped history, often against the odds. From those who fought for suffrage and civil rights to those breaking barriers today, their stories remind us of the power of persistence and the importance of equity.

Yet, there’s still work to do. Women continue to face challenges—whether in the workplace, in healthcare, or in everyday life. Honoring this month means celebrating progress while advocating for the changes still needed.

Ways to Celebrate & Support

🌿 Learn & Share – Read about influential women, watch documentaries, or attend local events.
📣 Amplify Voices – Support women-owned businesses, artists, and creators.
💬 Have Conversations – Challenge biases, discuss gender equity, and uplift others.
💜 Practice Solidarity – Advocate for policies that support women’s rights and well-being.

A Reminder for All Women

Your story matters. Your voice is valuable. Your presence makes a difference.

Let’s celebrate the women who came before us, those making change today, and the generations to come. 💜✨

Who are the women that inspire you? Drop a name or story in the comments! ⬇️

How are typical sessions run?

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Therapy sessions can vary widely depending on the therapist and client. Each session is shaped by the unique perspectives, experiences, and needs that both parties bring to the table. In my practice, my approach centers on having a conversation—one that’s open, flexible, and client-led.

I usually begin with a simple question: How are you doing since our last session? From there, I’ll ask if anything has come up they’d like to discuss or focus on, or where they’d like to start. Early in my career, I noticed that walking into a session with assumptions about what a client might want to talk about—or what activity they might want to engage in, like art or games—often made it harder to find a natural flow.

Now, I’ve adjusted my approach. I keep a variety of materials on a shelf near or above the table—art supplies, games, and other creative tools—but they’re not taking up the client’s space. They’re there if wanted, and I may rotate items depending on who’s coming in that day. On the table itself, I always have tissues, a small container of candy (seasonally themed), and hand sanitizer—simple touches that make the space welcoming and practical.

Most clients choose to talk and perhaps fidget with something small rather than dive into a creative activity, and that’s perfectly okay. The creative materials are always available, and sometimes I’ll suggest trying something different, depending on where a client is in their journey or how sessions have been going.

For many, the idea of creating can feel overwhelming when life’s stressors are flaring up. While I’m passionate about creating and know firsthand the therapeutic benefits it offers, I understand that it’s not always what someone needs in the moment. Even in my personal life, I sometimes find it hard to pull out art supplies or finish a project when I’m feeling stressed. Keeping that in mind helps me remain mindful of what I suggest to clients, whether we’ve been working together for years or are just getting started.

People occasionally ask about homework, wanting more structure between sessions. I’m happy to provide tools, worksheets, or book recommendations with a little time to research and find what’s most appropriate. Still, it’s ultimately the client’s responsibility to engage with these materials outside of our sessions, as our time together is limited. Often, clients have a lot happening in their lives and aren’t able to complete journaling, worksheets, or reading. That’s okay! I remind them these tools are available if they’re helpful, but if not, it’s not detrimental to their progress. We can revisit these resources together at another time, especially if we find ourselves with fewer pressing matters to discuss.

At this point in my career—nearly 12 years as a licensed therapist—I’ve learned that flexibility, presence, and client-centered care are key. Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all, and every session is an opportunity to meet the client where they are.

How about you? If you’ve experienced therapy, what made your sessions feel most supportive or effective? And if you’re considering starting, what would you want a session to look like for you?

What snack would you eat right now?

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🍿Popcorn of course!!!🍿

If I had to choose a snack right now, it would definitely be popcorn. It’s one of my all-time favorite treats—simple, delicious, and easy to customize. I use an air popper for that light and fluffy texture and melt a combination of butter and coconut oil for the perfect drizzle. Depending on my mood, I’ll add cheddar or kettle corn seasoning for a bit of salty or sweet flair.

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Popcorn is such a versatile snack. It feels like a guilty pleasure but has a healthy edge. With the right toppings, it’s a balanced treat—a mix of healthy fats, protein, and fun. Some days, I’ll toss in trail mix, Chex mix, raisins, or whatever nuts I have on hand to make it heartier. It’s a snack that hits all the right notes.

Beyond the taste, popcorn brings a wave of nostalgia. Growing up, it was a family staple for movie nights or watching a big game. We’d pair it with classic taco dip or even shrimp for occasions like the Super Bowl or holidays. Now, as an adult, popcorn feels like a way to honor my inner child. When life gets hectic, making a bowl of popcorn is an easy, comforting ritual that reminds me to slow down and savor the moment.

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I’m still experimenting with perfecting my popcorn game. My mom makes incredible stove top popcorn, but I haven’t quite mastered her technique. I’ve tried silicone microwave popcorn makers, but my air popper remains my favorite. I love flipping the popcorn in a big bowl to coat it evenly with butter and seasoning- it feels fancy!

What about you? What’s your go-to snack, and what memories does it bring back? Do you have a favorite way to make popcorn or a special topping combination? Let’s swap ideas—because snacks are always better when shared!😊

Debunking Myths: common misconceptions about therapy and mental health.

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Therapy and mental health have long been surrounded by myths and misconceptions that can create unnecessary barriers for those seeking support. Let’s take a moment to clear up some of the most common ones:

1. Myth: Therapy is only for people with severe mental illness.
Reality: Therapy is for anyone who wants support, growth, or a better understanding of themselves. You don’t have to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. It can help with stress, life transitions, personal development, or simply having a safe space to process your thoughts and emotions.

2. Myth: Talking about problems will make them worse.
Reality: Avoiding problems often gives them more power over your life. In therapy, talking about your challenges in a structured way with a trained professional can help you gain new perspectives, process emotions, and develop effective coping strategies.

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3. Myth: Therapists just listen and nod.
Reality: Active listening is an essential part of therapy, but it goes beyond that. Therapists provide personalized tools, techniques, and insights to help you navigate challenges. Sessions may involve problem-solving, skill-building, and actionable steps toward your goals. At times, simply listening can be the focus, as voicing stress aloud can activate different internal processes, helping the subconscious connect dots and allowing the body to release physical tension. Sessions can involve problem-solving, skill-building, and creating actionable steps to help you achieve your goals.

4. Myth: Therapy is too expensive.
Reality: While therapy can be a financial investment, many insurance plans cover mental health services, making therapy more accessible. Additionally, some therapists offer sliding scale fees, and community organizations may provide low-cost or free services.

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5. Myth: You have to share everything right away.
Reality: Therapy progresses at your pace. You don’t have to dive into your deepest struggles immediately. A good therapist will create a safe and supportive environment, allowing you to open up as you feel comfortable.

6. Myth: Needing therapy means you’re weak.
Reality: Seeking therapy takes strength and self-awareness. It’s a proactive step toward personal growth and well-being, not a sign of weakness.

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7. Myth: Therapy guarantees quick results.
Reality: Therapy is a process that takes time and effort. While some people may see improvements quickly, others might need more time to work through their challenges. It’s important to have realistic expectations and trust the journey.

8. Myth: Medication is the only solution for mental health issues.
Reality: Medication can be helpful for some people, but therapy is an effective standalone or complementary treatment for many mental health concerns. It’s about finding the right approach for your unique needs.

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9. Myth: Therapists will tell you what to do.
Reality: Therapists don’t give orders or make decisions for you. Instead, they help you explore your options, clarify your values, and empower you to make choices that align with your goals.

10. Myth: Therapy is a lifetime commitment.
Reality: The length of therapy varies depending on your needs and goals. Some people attend for a few sessions to address a specific issue, while others find ongoing therapy helpful for long-term support and growth.

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11. Myth: Therapists will never discharge clients just to make money.

Reality: if you feel therapy is no longer necessary or if you disagree with your therapist, it’s important to speak up and have an open conversation. If your concerns are more situational and not clinically driven, coaching might be a better fit for you.

By debunking these myths, we can better understand the value of therapy and mental health care. If you’ve been hesitant about starting therapy due to any of these misconceptions, know that you’re not alone—and help is available when you’re ready.

Art as a Tool for Boundary Setting and Self-Care

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Using Art as a Tool for Boundary Setting and Emotional Growth

Art offers an incredible medium for self-expression, and its benefits extend far beyond creativity. One unique application is using art as a tool for boundary setting, helping individuals visually communicate their need for space and protection. By engaging in creative practices, people can explore their inner worlds, strengthen their emotional resilience, and gain insights into their personal and relational dynamics.

Art and Boundary Setting: A Visual Affirmation

Setting boundaries is an essential act of self-care, yet many struggle to articulate their needs verbally. Art provides a powerful alternative, allowing individuals to express their boundaries symbolically. For example, creating a piece of art that represents your personal space—perhaps using circles to signify protection or specific colors to evoke calmness and strength—can serve as a visual affirmation of your right to emotional safety. Displaying this piece in a prominent place can act as a daily reminder of your commitment to self-care and the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

In intuitive art workshops led by licensed professionals, participants can explore this concept further. Guided prompts might include creating an artwork that visually maps out personal space or depicts the emotional energy they want to preserve. These exercises encourage self-awareness and foster a sense of empowerment in protecting one’s emotional well-being.

The Link Between Color Therapy and Mood Regulation

Colors play a crucial role in shaping our emotions and mental states. By consciously integrating color into their artwork, individuals can influence their mood and energy levels. For example, blue is known for its calming properties, red can energize and invigorate, and yellow often evokes happiness and optimism.

In workshops or personal practice, participants might be encouraged to create a color-focused piece of art based on how they wish to feel. For instance, someone seeking tranquility might explore shades of blue and green, layering these colors in abstract patterns to evoke a sense of calm. This intentional use of color not only enhances the artistic process but also provides a tangible way to regulate emotions and improve mental clarity.

Exploring Family Dynamics Through Art

Art can also serve as a safe medium for navigating complex family relationships. When words fail, creating artwork can help individuals express unspoken feelings and gain new perspectives. For example, participants might be guided to create a piece that symbolizes their relationship with a family member, focusing on the emotions involved rather than the physical likeness. A bridge, for instance, can serve as a metaphor—symbolizing whether a relationship feels sturdy, supportive, and connected, or if it seems fragile, broken, or in need of repair.

This process allows for a nonverbal exploration of family dynamics, helping individuals uncover underlying patterns and emotional truths. In a supportive workshop environment, participants can reflect on their creations and, with the guidance of a licensed professional, explore pathways to healing and improved communication.

Reframing Identity Through Art: From ‘Stuck’ to ‘Evolving’

Life transitions often challenge our sense of self, leaving us feeling stuck or uncertain. Art provides a powerful way to reframe identity, offering a visual representation of personal growth and transformation. Participants might be encouraged to create a piece that reflects their current stage in life and their aspirations for the future.

For example, someone transitioning into a new career might use bold, dynamic shapes to represent growth and exploration, while softer, interconnected forms could symbolize relationships and stability. This exercise not only fosters self-awareness but also inspires a sense of agency and optimism about the future.

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Creative Mindfulness: Opening the Subconscious

In these workshops, mindfulness practices often play a key role in preparing participants for the creative process. Incorporating creative mindfulness techniques—such as focusing on textures or allowing the hand to move freely—helps participants connect with their subconscious mind. Humor is sometimes used to break the ice and ease expectations, creating a welcoming space where individuals feel comfortable exploring their inner worlds.

By combining mindfulness with artistic expression, participants can dissolve emotional barriers, gain clarity, and embrace their authentic selves.

Investing in Your Emotional Growth

While the financial cost of professionally guided workshops may be higher than self-guided efforts, the benefits are trans-formative. Led by licensed professionals, these sessions offer expert guidance, tailored prompts, and a supportive community environment. Participants often leave not only with a finished piece of art but also with a deeper understanding of themselves and actionable tools for personal growth. However with personal growth, it’s essential to recognize that exploring the subconscious can evoke strong and sometimes unexpected feelings. This is where the support of a trained art therapist becomes invaluable. Art therapy offers a unique and safe space to navigate these emotions and vulnerabilities. A skilled art therapist can guide you through the process of self-expression, helping to uncover and process deep feelings that may arise, ensuring that you have the tools and support to handle what comes up in a healthy, manageable way.

Whether you’re looking to set boundaries, navigate family dynamics, or reframe your identity, using art as a tool for emotional exploration offers a path to healing and empowerment. These workshops provide a structured yet creative environment for uncovering insights and fostering lasting change, making them a valuable investment in your well-being.

2025 Bingo Card!

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It’s that time of the year again! Many will be planning or have planned ways they want to improve their year going forward, the hardest part can be sticking with those plans. Making goals fun is how I like to stick to those and see what I have accomplished at the end. I saw on TikTok a great idea to create your own Bingo card. You could create your own on your phone, computer or hand draw it! But most importantly, keep it in a place you will see it regularly. I plan to draw mine out and put it on my fridge so I will see it and keep it in the forefront of my mind throughout the year.

Creating a bingo card for New Year’s resolutions is a fun and engaging way to stay motivated throughout the year! Each square can represent a resolution or goal, ranging from personal development to adventurous challenges. It’s a great idea in order to make your goals easy and fun to achieve, then at the end of the year see if you hit Bingo!! It can be specific or general or just ideas on how to de-stress or change habits. Here’s a sample layout:

New Year’s Resolutions Bingo Card

(5×5 grid)

BINGO
Drink more waterRead 10 booksTry a new hobbyVolunteer locallyMeditate weekly
Exercise 3x/weekSave $500Organize your closetExplore a new cityGo camping
Meal prep weeklyTake a social media breakFREE SPACEJoin a local activityTry a new recipe
Learn a new skillHike the Ice Age TrailPaint my bedroomPay off a debtWatch a documentary
Take a daily walkPractice a musical instrumentLimit screen timeDeclutter your closetCompliment someone
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The Professional Podcast Network

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Aired: 7/25/24

Host: Phil

Interview With Samantha Hanson

Below is a transcript from the podcast discussion I had with The Professional Podcast Network:

Link below if you’d like to listen to the podcast.

Welcome to the Professional Podcast Network, where brilliance meets business. Elevate your brand and supercharge your revenue with inspiring insights and innovation.  

Hey there, everyone, and welcome back to the show. This is your host, Phil, and our next guest here today is Samantha Hansen, who’s based out of Appleton, Wisconsin, with her business called Peace and Colorful Dynamics.

How are you doing today, Samantha? Good.  I’m doing well, thank you. Glad to hear that. So, Samantha, tell us a little bit more here about what you offer at Peace and Colorful Dynamics.  Well, I offer mental health services. I do individual sessions with people using traditional talk therapy, but combined with expressive arts as a way to help communicate feelings and needs in a different way. 

Sounds good. How long have you been doing this all for?  I’ve been in private practice for about four years now.  Excellent.  So how does the whole process work here when it comes to this therapy you’re doing? Like, where do you start with people?  Well, we can do a consultation, a brief 10-15 minute call just to talk about concerns, make sure we both feel we are a good fit.

I usually offer a video consultation so that way we can see each other and talk, that tends to be more personal than a phone call or as far as getting out of busy work schedules and traffic, video consults seem to work great. The next step would be checking with insurance if that’s the case, or cash pay option if choosing not to use insurance, and then we could go from there, scheduling a session. 

Alright, excellent. And what was it that kind of led you toward this career path? What was your inspiration here?  Well, growing up, I was sick a lot. I was chronically ill, and my mom taught me about crocheting and knitting and painting and drawing. And so it was something that helped me growing up, just using the expressive arts to help me feel better.

And then as I got older, general stress, it helped me just feel better generally, not just,  when I was sick. So. When I realized art therapy was a thing, I had to see where I could take it. And I loved the idea of learning about psychology and this whole new world. So combining the two aspects, it just made sense.

And they really do go hand in hand. Even if we’re not using expressive arts, there’s still visual metaphors and art behind everything we do.  Hmm. Well, it sounds like to me you found your calling here.  All right. Well, Samantha, is there anything else here you want our listeners to know about you? Anything else you want to share today? 

Well, I’m just very down to earth. My job is to make my clients feel comfortable, and I know in my own therapy sessions I would want to feel comfortable and have somebody that is, you know, more down to earth not feel, not feel judged. I mean, judging people, not judging 101 was our first class in school.

Just, I want to make people feel comfortable. So I’m down to earth, I do a lot of art and music in the community. I foster dogs and cats. Occasionally they join sessions if we are telehealth. I want people to know that I have this art to provide to them and I’m here to help them through their journey. 

Alright, sounds great. Well, Samantha, how do we reach out to you if we want to talk to you more about this?  Yes, I do have a website, peaceincolor.org. It has more information on it, talking about services, different examples of what stress may look like if people aren’t sure if that’s what they need.

And then there’s contact information on there to reach me via email or phone. Email is preferred, it’s a little easier to get back to people. That would be peaceincolor2020@gmail.com. But, the website does have all the information. I’m also on social media. You can search up the Peace in Color or Peace in Colorful Dynamics.

I’m all over Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.  All right. Well, Samantha,  thank you again for joining us today and talking to us about all this.  Thank you for inviting me. Wonderful to be here. Wonderful to have you here. You have a great day. All right.  You as well. Bye. Take care. The rest of our listeners stay right there.

We’ll be right back after the short commercial break.  Welcome to the professional podcast network where brilliance meets business, elevate your brand and supercharge your revenue with inspiring insights and innovation. 

How to Start the Search for a Therapist During the Holidays

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“…the sole purpose of human experience is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.”

–Carl Jung

One of the most popular statements I see in online discussion boards, or get asked is “How do I find help?”

The holiday season can be a time of joy, connection, and celebration—but it can also bring stress, grief, or feelings of loneliness. For many, the added emotional weight of the season serves as a reminder to seek professional support, such as starting therapy. However, the process of finding a therapist, especially during the busy holiday season, can feel overwhelming.

The good news? Taking the first steps to find a therapist during this time is achievable with a bit of planning and patience. Here’s a guide to help you navigate the process.

1. Reflect on Your Needs

Before beginning your search, take time to identify what you’re looking for in therapy:

  • What’s bringing you to therapy? Are you dealing with holiday-related stress, anxiety, grief, or long-term concerns?
  • What type of support feels right? Do you prefer individual, couples, or family therapy?
  • Do you have specific preferences? Consider factors like the therapist’s gender, age, cultural background, or approach to therapy.

This self-reflection will make it easier to narrow down your options and find someone who aligns with your goals.

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2. Start with Your Insurance or Budget

If you have insurance, check your provider’s directory for in-network therapists. Many insurance companies offer online search tools that let you filter by location, specialization, and language. Your insurance card may have a client portal website listed on the card, or has been sent to the email on file after you signed up, where it lists your benefits. Otherwise there will be a number to call and they can assist you further.

If you’re paying out-of-pocket and have a tight budget or are in a difficult financial place,

  • Look for sliding-scale therapists who adjust fees based on income.
  • Use platforms like Open Path Collective, which connects individuals with affordable therapy options.

If you are seeking to not use insurance, you can ask providers if they have a cash rate, the provider may still want to verify that your insurance will allow you to opt out – as not all insurances will allow you to.

If you find an Out of Network provider – you can talk to your insurance regarding “out of network benefits”. some will accept a “superbill” a special reciept stating the services and amount you paid, and may or maynot reimburse you all or some of the session cost.

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3. Use Online Directories

Online directories make it easy to search for therapists by specialty, location, and availability. Some popular platforms include:

  • Psychology Today: Offers a comprehensive directory with filters for various needs.
  • Mental Health Match: A comprehensive directory that will allow you to fill out a survey and match you with providers matching those needs.
  • MdLive or Teladoc: Connects you with online therapists or medical doctors for virtual sessions.

These tools often include therapist profiles, so you can learn more about their approach and expertise before reaching out.

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4. Leverage Word of Mouth

Sometimes, the best recommendations come from people you trust. If you’re comfortable, consider asking friends, family, or colleagues if they know of a therapist they recommend.

Alternatively, your primary care physician, clergy member, or school counselor may have a list of local therapists or resources to share.

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5. Be Patient with Holiday Schedules

Therapists often experience higher demand during the holidays and may have limited availability due to travel or personal commitments. If you can’t schedule an appointment immediately:

  • Ask to be waitlisted: Many therapists maintain cancellation lists and can fit you in sooner if a spot opens.
  • Book for January: Starting therapy in the new year can still set you up for a strong start.
  • Consider interim support: Hotlines or crisis chat services can provide immediate assistance while you wait.
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6. Prepare for Your First Contact

Once you’ve identified potential therapists, reach out by phone or email. Be prepared to share:

  • A brief summary of why you’re seeking therapy.
  • Your preferred schedule and whether you need in-person or virtual sessions.
  • Any questions about fees, insurance, or the therapist’s approach.

If you don’t hear back right away, don’t be discouraged—this can be a busy time of year for therapists. Following up after a few days is perfectly acceptable.

7. Explore Immediate Coping Strategies

While waiting for therapy to begin, consider other ways to support your mental health during the holidays:

  • Practice self-care: Engage in activities that relax and recharge you.
  • Set boundaries: Protect your time and energy by saying no to unnecessary obligations.
  • Seek support groups: Many communities offer holiday grief or stress management groups.

8. Give Yourself Grace

Starting the search for a therapist during the holidays can feel like one more thing on an already full to-do list. Remember: the fact that you’re taking steps to prioritize your mental health is a meaningful accomplishment in itself.

Even if you don’t find a therapist immediately, you’re laying the groundwork for healing and growth. Be kind to yourself as you navigate this process.

A Final Note

The holidays are a time of heightened emotion for many, but they can also be an opportunity to reflect on your well-being and take proactive steps toward care. Whether you start therapy now or prepare to begin in the new year, prioritizing your mental health is a powerful gift you can give yourself.

Have questions or need help getting started? Have any other directories to share? Let’s discuss in the comments!

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Pop Psychology Is Not Psychology: Finding the Grey Area

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“The human mind is not a terribly logical or consistent place.”

–Jim Butcher

In today’s world of viral social media posts, catchy self-help books, and motivational memes, “pop psychology” has become a buzzword. It promises quick fixes and universal truths about how to live, think, and feel. While some of these ideas may be rooted in psychological principles, they’re often oversimplified, and or distorted.

Real psychology, grounded in research and clinical practice, rarely provides black-and-white answers. Instead, it teaches us to explore the grey areas—to embrace complexity, recognize nuances, and challenge oversimplified narratives.

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The Allure of Pop Psychology

Pop psychology thrives because it feels accessible and empowering. A tweet or TikTok video claiming, “Cut out toxic people and your life will improve” resonates with our desire for control and clarity. It’s tempting to believe that every problem has a clear cause and solution.

However life isn’t that simple. While boundaries are important, labeling every difficult relationship as “toxic” overlooks the complexities of human interactions. Pop psychology often focuses on extremes—what’s “good” versus “bad,” or “healthy” versus “unhealthy”—and neglects the subtleties of real life.

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The Danger of All-or-Nothing Thinking

Pop psychology often feeds into a common cognitive distortion: all-or-nothing thinking (also called black-and-white thinking). This mental trap leads us to see situations, people, or ourselves as entirely good or bad, successful or failing, lovable or unworthy.

Here’s an example:

  • Pop Psychology View: “If someone doesn’t prioritize you 100%, they don’t care about you.”
  • Psychological Perspective: Relationships are nuanced. People can care deeply about you while also being imperfect, distracted, or managing their own struggles.

All-or-nothing thinking doesn’t leave room for the messy, complicated middle ground where most of life happens. This distortion can fuel unrealistic expectations, unnecessary conflict, and feelings of inadequacy.

Recognizing Cognitive Distortions

Real psychology equips us with tools to identify and challenge cognitive distortions, helping us navigate the grey areas of life. Some common distortions include:

  1. Overgeneralization: Assuming one bad experience means all similar experiences will be bad.
    • Pop Psychology: “One failed relationship? You’re just not meant for love.”
    • Reality: A single failure doesn’t define your future. Relationships are opportunities for growth and learning.
  2. Catastrophizing: Expecting the worst-case scenario without evidence.
    • Pop Psychology: “If you’re not happy every day, you’re failing at life.”
    • Reality: Happiness ebbs and flows; it’s unrealistic to expect constant joy.
  3. Emotional Reasoning: Believing something is true simply because it feels true.
    • Pop Psychology: “I feel anxious, so I must be in danger.”
    • Reality: Emotions are signals, but they don’t always reflect objective reality.
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Why Grey Areas Matter

Psychology encourages us to sit with discomfort, uncertainty, and nuance. Rather than offering easy answers, it helps us build resilience and insight. Understanding grey areas means:

  • Recognizing that people and situations are complex.
  • Accepting that progress is not linear.
  • Balancing self-compassion with accountability.

Here’s an example of navigating the grey area:
Imagine you’re struggling with a friendship where your needs feel unmet.

  • Pop Psychology Might Say: “If they’re not meeting your needs, cut them out!”
  • Psychology Would Encourage: Reflect on the dynamic. Are your needs clearly communicated? Is this a pattern or a temporary challenge? Can the relationship be improved with mutual effort?

By exploring the grey area, you’re more likely to make informed, thoughtful decisions that honor both your feelings and the relationship’s context.

How to Think Critically About Pop Psychology

Not everything that sounds psychologically sound is true. To distinguish helpful insights from oversimplified advice:

  1. Consider the Source: Does the idea come from a licensed professional or reputable research?
  2. Question Absolutes: Be wary of advice that feels overly rigid or universal.
  3. Reflect on Context: Ask whether the advice applies to your unique situation.
  4. Learn About Cognitive Distortions: Understanding common mental traps helps you evaluate ideas critically.
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Embracing the Complexity of Real Psychology

Real psychology doesn’t provide quick fixes or one-size-fits-all answers. Instead, it empowers you to think critically, reflect deeply, and make choices that align with your values and circumstances. Life isn’t black and white—and that’s okay. Embracing the grey area is where true growth begins.

What do you think about pop psychology versus real psychology? Let’s discuss in the comments!

November: A Month of Mental Health Awareness and Compassion

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This year has flown by, and we are already mid November. November offers us a unique opportunity to reflect, raise awareness, and foster compassion. It’s a month dedicated not only to celebrating cultural and personal identity but also to recognizing the profound impact of mental health on our lives and communities. Let’s explore how November’s observances connect to mental health and why they’re so crucial in fostering understanding and support.

National Family Caregivers Month

Caregivers play a vital role in supporting loved ones, often at great emotional and physical expense to themselves. Many face burnout, stress, and isolation as they juggle their responsibilities. This month encourages us to honor caregivers by recognizing their challenges, offering resources, and ensuring they feel supported in their own mental health journeys.

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How You Can Help:

  • Offer a listening ear to a caregiver in your life.
  • Encourage them to seek respite care or counseling if needed.
  • Share resources like caregiver support groups and hotlines.
  • Be empathetic if they ask and do not follow through, the amount of responsibility they have felt for so long may be hard to see past.

National Diabetes Month

Living with diabetes is more than a physical health challenge—it also impacts mental health. The constant need for monitoring, management, and lifestyle adjustments can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. For many, this journey highlights the intersection of physical and mental well-being.

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How You Can Help:

  • Learn about diabetes and the emotional toll it can take.
  • Support loved ones by encouraging healthy habits without judgment.
  • Advocate for better mental health resources in chronic illness care.

Native American Heritage Month

This month honors the history, culture, and contributions of Native American communities while acknowledging the systemic barriers they face. Generational trauma, health disparities, and a lack of access to mental health services are persistent challenges in these communities. Celebrating their resilience while advocating for equity is key.

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How You Can Help:

  • Educate yourself about Native American history and present-day struggles.
  • Support organizations providing culturally competent mental health care for Indigenous people.
  • Celebrate and amplify Native voices in your community.

Transgender Awareness Week (Nov. 13-19) & Transgender Day of Remembrance (Nov. 20)

Transgender individuals face unique mental health challenges, including discrimination, family rejection, and an increased risk of violence. Transgender Awareness Week highlights the need for understanding and advocacy, while the Transgender Day of Remembrance honors those lost to anti-transgender violence.

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How You Can Help:

  • Use inclusive language and respect people’s pronouns.
  • Advocate for trans-inclusive mental health policies.
  • Remember and honor trans lives by attending local or virtual events.

International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day (Nov. 23)

This day is a time for those who have lost someone to suicide to come together, share their stories, and heal. It underscores the importance of breaking the stigma around suicide and prioritizing mental health support for those left behind.

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How You Can Help:

  • Attend or promote events supporting survivors of suicide loss.
  • Familiarize yourself with resources like the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
  • Offer empathy and understanding to those who have experienced this loss.

Bringing It All Together

November reminds us that mental health is a shared responsibility. By acknowledging these observances and the people they impact, we can create a more empathetic and supportive world. Whether through learning, advocacy, or simply showing up for someone, every action matters.

Let this month inspire us to look out for each other and to prioritize mental health—not just in November, but all year long.

What are you doing to support mental health awareness this month? Share your thoughts and let’s keep the conversation going.